Hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil, post no evil; My forty days of solitude
It
all started when I realized how much my brain was fried. It was over-excited. I
was stressed out. ALL. THE. TIME.
A
steady barrage of news and information to respond to, retain, analyze, sort out
and decipher. My days were a lifeless routine and my prayers were a series of emotionless movements
and words.
I
was becoming desensitized to violence, my empathy towards others has lessened.
I
was slipping into an abyss.
It
also seemed to me that my previously clear dividing line between right and
wrong was getting a little too murky for comfort.
A
stand with the self was necessary.
Even
though I have always portrayed myself as an extrovert, I fit in more
comfortably with an introvert’s description and way of life. I needed a turtle
shell to retreat into.
So
I decided to take a break from it all. I took me by the shoulder, shook me
and looked me in the eyes and told me that wish as I may, I have no control of
all things beyond me. I cannot feed all the hungry. I cannot heal the lepers
nor make the blind see. I cannot be the good mother, wife, daughter or friend
that I wanted to be if I’m not in tune with me.
With
a family and a job, one cannot just up and disappear into the desert (as
tempting as that might sound). So with physical solitude out of the question, I
opted for a psychological one. I decided to practice “3uzla” or spiritual
solitude eliminating all unnecessary communication and reconnecting with the
Divine. The desert adds and allows for melancholy and contemplation in a
strange haunting way. And lots of desert I have here.
My
aim was not merely to shield myself from negativity, but also to examine myself
well.
Research
has shown that decreasing noise in all its forms, even for a few minutes daily,
boosts the immune system and lowers aggression.
But
quiet should not be just the absence of sound. It should be a state of calm. A
state of reflection and inner peace.
Interestingly
all spiritual disciplines employ solitude as the
pathway to the divine through silent meditation, prayer etc. Buddhism’s
“Noble Eightfold Path” is the Buddha’s practical guideline to ethical and
mental development with the goal of freeing
the individual from suffering, attachments and delusions. They were embodied in:
Right
Understanding
Right
Thoughts
Right
Speech
Right
Action
Right
Livelihood
Right
Effort
Right
Mindfulness
Right
Concentration.
Ancient
Zoroastrians used the term “Humata, Hukhta, Hvarshta,” which stood for: “good
thoughts, good words, good deeds.”
In Islam, solitude is encouraged too. The prophet, peace be upon
him was asked “How
can salvation be achieved?” He replied, “Control your tongue, keep to your
house, and weep over your sins.”
The
Qur’an tells us how alsayida Maryam (Mary mother of Jesus), peace be upon her, withdrew into a private place to worship her Lord in a time in which moral decadence was prevalent.
So dive in I did!
As I embarked on this journey, I strived for elevation from the
humiliation of sins to the greatness of submission, acceptance and worship. I
wanted to be able to see my own faults, be able to forgive my past and direct
my heart towards my Maker at all times.
I also prayed for forgiveness from leading any other soul
astray.
At
the time I started thinking about all of this, I began reading a beautiful book
a dear friend gifted me (Thank you friend) called The Forty Rules of Love, a
novel about the Sufi mystic, Rumi. I am not a Sufi follower by any means but I
have to say I enjoyed the book tremendously and highly recommend it.
Rules 17 and 23 respectively state:
“The whole universe is contained within a single human
being-YOU. Everything that you see around, including the things that you might
not be fond of and even the people you despise or abhor, is present within you
in varying degrees. Therefore, do not look for Sheitan (Evil) outside yourself
either. The devil is not an extraordinary force that attacks from without. It
is an ordinary voice within. If you set to know yourself fully, face it with
honesty and hardness.”
“The human being has a unique place among God’s creation. “I
breathed into him of My Spirit,” God says. Each and every one of us without
exception is designed to be God’s delegate on earth. Ask yourself, just how
often do you behave like a delegate, if you ever do so? Remember, it fells upon
each of us to discover the divine spirit inside and live by it.”
This all sounded easy-peasy when I planned it! But anyone who
knows me even barely will know how hard it is for me to be quiet and not talk
much. It took a lot of determination in the first few days but after that, I
was actually very comfortable in my own company and noticed overall calm. I
would like to think that I also found “ons” or companionship with Allah via
zikr. A tête-à-tête
with Him if I may say so.
I turned off all social media venues and only responded to work
emails and spoke to my parents and children. And yes, my spouse too J
So
an added bonus was that I proved to myself and to the naysayers that I was capable
of zipping my mouth shut. Amen!
(I
have to say though that I have spoken out loud to myself more times than I care
to admit. And found that I called myself Shawqiya. Don’t ask)
So…To a mind that is disciplined. To shunning of all that is detrimental to one’s
soul and to fellow human beings. To all that is human and good.
N.B. More of this and I just might reach enlightenment. Stay tuned J
Happy for you Sima, I feel how does that feel to you. I can imagine most of difficult questions of life is not a big issue for you now or soon. I really believe that this is the purpose of our existence. it's a journey designed by almighty god for us to take to reach that enlightenment point. some people start early other start late, so happy for you, you enshalla have a lot of time enjoying it :) keep us updated
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