Saturday, October 4, 2014

What's in a name?

Shakespeare famously said through Juliet "That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."
But is that really so?

A name is a title. It is an adornment and a symbol. It's a powerful piece of us. It is what we respond to. It might not be who we all are yet we become different if it changes.

My story goes that my parents met an Indian girl named Siema (pronounced Seema and worldwide spelled as such but my parents had to give me a run). They liked the name so much so that when I was born, my dad asked his friend, an Arabic language expert, if the name could have a meaning in Arabic.  He was told it could be a derivative of the quranic aya
"سيماهم في وجوههم من أثر السجود"
Which literally translates to a skin marking that imprints on one's forehead from prolonged prostration to God (the Muslim prayer is made up of specific physical movements that include bringing one's forehead to the ground multiple times in each prayer). The meaning to be conveyed is that your face reflects the inner you. The ancient Arabs would say
ما أسر أحد سريرة إلا أبداها الله على صفحات وجهه وفلتات لسانه
Whatever you hold within you of good or evil, God will draw/bring out on the pages of your face and bouts of your tongue
(An old wise man recently told me "it's a burden your parents bestowed upon you. You unconsciously feel the desire to live up to your name." Maybe. Maybe not. I once knew a Hope who was an absolute pessimist).
Anyway that is how I came to be named.
As far as I know I am the first Sudanese Siema(sp). I know at least 4 Seemas named after me. I think this deserves to go down in history *insert hair flip and Cleopatra'ish pose*
I cannot recount the number of times I had to explain my name. Or the number of times stubborn Sudanese just flat out refused it. It didn't exist so it cannot be was the reasoning. I was instead given more common names like Sumaya and Shaymaa by several teachers in school and college.

To make matters more interesting and to add to the story, our neighbors to the North,  the Egyptians, call the movie theaters (seema).  And they also happened to have a famous candy brand by that same name. To my horrific delight, that company went on to produce jam and honey too and TV commercials arrived in Sudan in the mid 80s. My school friends made sure I heard about it.
I was also serenaded in my college years with
 "سيما يا عسل يا احلي عسل إنتاج مصانع. ..مصانع صبار"... the honey commercial

As I write this I have to admit it's corny cute. If I were to go back,  I would be less embarrassed by it and
enjoy it more.

The reason I have come to like my name is that I have discovered it to be an international one. It makes me a child of the world. It fits in fine almost everywhere.  It's shared by Muslims, Jews, Hindus and Persians.
I've come across it a lot in the Indian community where it means face or boundary in Hindi.
Seema in Hebrew means precious thing or treasure (Met an Israeli whose sister was a Seema. That served to break the ice in my first real life Israeli meeting :)
And in Persian it means face.
Was told in Latin it means sprout and in Scottish translates into listener (but as far as I know it is not used as a name).

In Islam, it is narrated that a father owes his child 3 things; to choose a good, wise woman to mother him and bring him up well, to give him a good name and to teach him the holy book.
 (يحسن اختيار أمه، وأن يحسن اسمه، وأن يعلّمه الكتاب)
I attest that my dad did all three things and for that I am blessed and pray he finds peace in this life and the eternal abode.

So what's in a name? A lot. A name has a mysterious power. It somehow captures a piece of our soul. It reflects our essence and has a hand in molding us.
I'm known for asking friends to name their daughters Seema. It might seem outwardly narcissistic but that is not the case. I have lived this name and enjoyed it fully and am aware of the doors it opens. It is a gift I want to give to you my friends. A piece of me if you may.







8 comments:

  1. Nice piece! I really enjoyed reading it. You know you were the first Siema that I came to know. I then met two more "Seemas"- both Indians. I must say you are the nicest of all three.
    It brought me to think about my own name, which I know I've always loved, and for many reasons. I'm not sure though that I could put it in words like you did. My niece was named Sara as well. I like to think that she was named after me, but that might not be the case :)
    Anyways, enough 'bout my name and congrats about your blog. Keep it coming.

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    1. Thanks Riri and I'm sure your niece was named after you :)

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  2. Great siema :)I knew u as a strong and powerful woman, always cheerful keep it up and keep bloging. I know what u mean I have a daughter now she is 8 month and her name is Talia which can be تالية من التلاوة or تاليا the dew of heaven in hebrew. The last one I didnt know except after a week from her birth but I am glad that my daughter's name is as u said international and I hope that she too would live up to it. Hope to see u soon سيما بونبون sally osama ur friend from egypt :)

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    1. Shukran ya Sally and inshalla Talia would grow up into a talia and barra and amazing, sweet young lady as her mother. And yes, inshalla we meet soon in the best of times. Hugs and kisses to baby.

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  3. I enjoyed this so much Seima. Beautifully written. There's so much attached and attributed to a name in Nigeria. Ive been told my name Barbara means stranger. It's somewhat intriguing yet confusing. It's also somewhat calming that im a stranger on earth and heaven is my home. (That's my own take on it) maybe I should have stuck to my Nigerian name Opeyemi which means I ought to continously praise God. This article has kind of nudged me to go with it in the new year. That said, Siema is a name that is pleasant to the ears and would give myself that if I could, it would be a privilege to be recognised in heaven as someone who had a mark on her forehead from constantly prostrating to God in awe of HIS greatness. I look forward to the next article. If i was a blog critic i would call this piece original and inspiring, This is 5 stars all the way my dear friend.

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  4. I enjoyed this so much Seima. Beautifully written. There's so much attached and attributed to a name in Nigeria. Ive been told my name Barbara means stranger. It's somewhat intriguing yet confusing. It's also somewhat calming that im a stranger on earth and heaven is my home. (That's my own take on it) maybe I should have stuck to my Nigerian name Opeyemi which means I ought to continously praise God. This article has kind of nudged me to go with it in the new year. That said, Siema is a name that is pleasant to the ears and would give myself that if I could, it would be a privilege to be recognised in heaven as someone who had a mark on her forehead from constantly prostrating to God in awe of HIS greatness. I look forward to the next article. If i was a blog critic i would call this piece original and inspiring, This is 5 stars all the way my dear friend.

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  5. I enjoyed reading this. When I first saw your name on face book I liked it and immediately thought about it's meaning. I assumed it meant someone's typical expression or way of behaving and your parents were of course thinking of and wishing good behaviour for you. You opened the doors wide for us to explore our name beyond what we already know :) . Thank you for the inspiration.

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  6. Thank you Maha. I guess you always tend to take your name for granted but having an "off" name makes me always stop and examine names in depth. I have like 15 names set up for the daughter that never came. Naming is fun and serious business :)

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